Last week, I was lucky enough to win a raffle at a mom blogger’s event and had first choice of several scooters. Without even any contemplation, I immediately selected the mini scooter (with three wheels) for my two year old son. It never dawned on me that maybe I should get one for myself or my husband. (Confession: we are both not the most coordinated and the scooters would rust before we ever jumped on it.) But that’s neither here nor there. My actions made me think about how ever since I was pregnant, I have put my child’s needs ahead of my on.
As another blogger recently wrote, “During the newborn stage, I learned (quite abruptly) that it was no longer all about me. In fact, it was very much not about me. I learned to give every ounce of myself to another being and to be rewarded simply by the giving…”
David Code, a family therapist, writer for the Wall Street Journal and author of To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First said, “Today’s number one myth about parenting is that the more attention we give our kids, the better they’ll turn out. But we parents have gone too far: our over-focus on our children is doing them more harm than good. Families centered on children create anxious, exhausted parents and demanding, entitled children. We parents today are too quick to sacrifice our lives and our marriages for our kids. Most of us have created child-centered families, where our children hold priority over our time, energy and attention.”
What’s your opinion and parenting style? Have you been able to find a successful happy medium?